Author Katie Mettner

S-E-X

Did I just say that? Yes, I did because I wanted to grab your attention. If you're here, then it worked. Funny how that little 'three letter word' has the ability to make us feel so many different things. I recently did a free day on my book Granted Redemption 


This is what the descriptions said on Amazon .

*Spicy Christian Romance dealing with real world topics including premarital sex, abuse and death. This is an adult content book* 

Psalm 23: Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death….. 

A lifetime ago Grant Harris was an Australian surfer at the top of his sport, until one wave changed everything. Fifteen years later, Grant has become bitter, lonely, and disillusioned. Hoping to jump start his career he accepts a position in Duluth Minnesota, with no way of knowing how quickly his life was about to change. 

A lifetime ago Carla Coffers was a runaway teen with no family, no money and no hope for a future. Fifteen years later, she’s a successful business woman as owner of Carla's Kinky Café, on beautiful Lake Superior. Her friends think she’s got it all, but Carla still yearns for the one thing she never had. 

A cup of coffee, a car, a confession and a cross come together to grant them redemption from their past and hope for the future. 

I put right in there a warning that the book has premarital S-E-X in the story. The fact is, without it there is no story. Interestingly, several people never read past the point in the book where the S-E-X is (but felt the need to leave a negative review pointing out there was S-E-X in it, even though it clearly states that already) to find out why it was there. Had they read further into the story they might have discovered what the story was ACTUALLY about. Was it about the S-E-X? Honestly, it kind of was, but not for the reasons you're thinking. 

I posted once on Facebook about this being the bane of my existence and one comment read, "In a sense you're preaching to people that something they don't think is okay and don't want to read is okay and they should read it. " There are several things wrong with that statement, the first one being that I am telling them they should read it. No, no I'm not. I'm not holding their finger over the one click button and forcing them to do anything. I've written the story, I've made it available for purchase, and I've been honest and forthcoming warning them what's in it. I haven't told them to do anything, I've offered them the choice. 


My response to that comment was this:
"Oh and to be clear, in this particular story I, in no way, am preaching to people that premarital sex is okay. In fact, I prove that it causes a lot of problems and has a negative effect across our lives quite often. I use scripture to show that even if we sin we can still be redeemed. The problem is you actually gotta read the whole book to see that. So no, I'm not preaching that it's okay, in fact, I don't preach at all. What I'm saying in Grant's story is if we fall, we can still get up and have redemption from our sins because HIS son died on the cross for us as a promise of life everlasting. Hence the reason his brother's name is Cross."


So why is S-E-X such a big tadoo in books? I had several reviews from those free days where the reader understood the book as it stood and got that it wasn't about the S-E-X and was instead about redemption. Why do people buy or download books that they have already been warned they aren't going to enjoy? If you don't want to read about "romance and sex" why are you downloading a book very clearly stating that's what it's about? 

Some say, "Well you can't have S-E-X in Christian romance books." I've covered my reasons for including the three letter word in a prior post here. The books are in the categories of "family life" and "contemporary romance", with a disclosure that they talk about God and are spicy Christian romance, because I decided I don't have a perfect category for my books. I've never sat in the ring of traditional Christian romance and I've never sat in the ring of traditional contemporary romance (If there really is such a thing). Leaving them in contemporary romance I'm sure at some point a review will be negative because there is too much God in the book, it's a real catch .22.

I guess for some reason I didn't learn with Granted Redemption and decided to do free days for my short novella Snow Daze before the release of my new Christmas story, December Kiss. 


Snow Daze is a novella, hence it's a pretty short story, but the point behind it when I wrote it was that even if you are differently-abled that doesn't mean you can't be loved and wanted by someone in the most sexy of ways. I want to make a very big NOTE here. This was in the category holidays. It wasn't in Christian romance, even though there is a Bible verse mentioned at the beginning of the story. Knowing what happened with Grant I put this on the blurb before I set it up for free days. 

*Romance dealing with real world issues including disability and sex." 

Trapped in an elevator with a handsome stranger is the perfect ‘meet-cute’, but Dr. Snow Daze has no interest in being the heroine of the next romance novel. Since her last ‘knight in shining armor’ turned into a nightmare, Snow hasn’t even looked at another man; one look into the alluring eyes of this stranger told her one thing, he was a guaranteed complication. 

When Dully Alexander comes face to face with his very own snow angel he knows he will do anything to be her hero. With a good old fashioned Minnesota blizzard raging outside, a crackling fire inside, and whispered secrets on the couch, can Dully convince Snow she deserves her happily ever after? 


I'm not sure what part of that doesn't scream this is a romance book and there is going to be S-E-X in it. Fast forward a few days and the book gets over 900 free downloads. Immediately I get a negative review saying "well why is this a Christian romance? Just because they talk about their faith? They also have S-E-X." Honestly, I can't even make this stuff up. See my NOTE above. 



What is my point with this? Simply to find out what readers want us, as authors, to do. You will never get 100% of authors to put their books in the right category, that's a given, but I strive to write a well written story, put them in the appropriate category, and forewarn readers long before they click the buy button. So what more can or should we be doing? My books are about real life. They are stories about death, loss, grief, comfort, pain, anger, happiness and yes, even S-E-X. Life is about all of those same things, there isn't a Christian (or any other religion for that matter) alive who hasn't experienced at least one of those things. Who hasn't experienced real life pain and anger? 

I won't quit writing about real life and I won't quit writing about S-E-X. In fact, my new story, December Kiss, has the underlying story line that centers around it. Jay is disabled, and a virgin. He struggles with wondering if he can ever have that kind of relationship with a woman. Is there S-E-X in this story? No, there honestly isn't, but there is a lot of talk about it. I'm writing stories that I hope will make people feel good when they finish them. Make their spirit buoyed by the hope that life is good, and life goes on, and it's worth all the pain, anger, fear, loss, and grief for the happiness and comfort that we can bring other people around us. That is my ministry. 

"He who was seated on the throne said, "I am making everything new!" Then he said, "Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true." Revelation 21:5

Thanks for stopping by and letting me vent about that little three letter word. Do you have an opinion, feel free to comment below. 
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